I got so much better at speaking up for myself. I really did. Sometimes it seemed to help... in the beginning. 

But I just keep quiet these days.  In the instances I have been the absolute most upset by things—the resentment-causing wedge-driving things—I have spoken up.  And each time,  I have been met with the same options: take it or leave it.

I no longer speak out. Instead,  when I'm upset, I silently weigh my two options: take it or leave it.