Your Body is a Wonderland

So, I think maybe things are getting serious between Aaron and I. And I'm excited about it!

I still struggle with the paranoia that it's all a lie and that this is going to hurt because I'm still scared of people, but I'm also trying to suppress those fears and give this thing a chance.

Meyer said he seems like a character from an indie romcom, and I'm trying to believe that too.

I was off work yesterday, so of course I went to Aaron's house the night before. When we had originally made the plans, he said he "had an idea" but wouldn't tell me what it was. He never tells me his ideas ahead of time. Turns out his idea was to teach each other some things about what we respectively went to school for. He wanted to do it as a means of getting to know each other better. And I don't think I've ever had someone plan something just to get to know me mentally. I think all he learned is that I don't do well on the spot. My mind goes blank and I can't forumlate words at all. So, I taught him a thing or two about design, mainly typography, though he had questions about web design. And he taught me a thing or two about songwriting. Have I mentioned here before that he is Berklee educated? I feel this is important. I've always had a thing for musicians...

I did learn more about him... more so in a random conversation we had about one of his friends than in the showcase of his songwriting knowledge (though I did learn a lot from that too). He told me his advice on helping his friend get a girlfriend. He seems to be read on human sexuality/biology/attraction or whatever, and seems to go "by the book." I listened and added my input on what he was saying but deep down feared that maybe his readings on the matter included some pick-up artist advice. I couldn't tell. He described women as either being "in their masculine" or "in their feminine" and said that women should do the chasing and pursue men, but only after a man guages her attraction level for him (must be 6 or above). The man should not chase the woman so that he doesn't make her feel she's losing her independence or something like that. I wanted to tell him that it's not that black and white. While those may be loose guides for understanding basic attraction, individuals are far more complex... duh.

That said, I don't feel I've been doing the pursuing. As a woman who is not confident, I would have let him go in a heartbeat had he moved away by just an inch. As much as he doesn't want to admit it, or maybe doesn't see it, he has, in fact, still been doing the pursing. He has asked me when I'm free and set up the times for us to see each other. He contacted me first when we hadn't talked in a few days. And it's not a competition... I have just been extremely guarded, and I greatly appreciate his efforts because maybe it's helping me realize that it's okay to be open again.

The "idea" was the definitive moment that made me feel that maybe he genuinely likes me for more than just my body.

He also told me how much he likes me and all that, but words are words are words...

The next day, on my day off, he gave Bear a couple tennis balls. Bear loved them. Then he ran around the house with Bear and it had me laughing out loud and it was all really adorable. I know he probably doesn't want to be around Bear since he's allergic, but it means so much to me. I took him to Waffle House for his first time. He knew going into it that it was "an experience." He really liked it. Then I took him to McKay's for his first time. He liked that too but not as much as Waffle House. That night he went to the Eisley show with me despite not knowing any of the bands. Also despite being tired as hell. We had only slept 4 hours the night before. I could tell he was insanely tired and I was too, so I suggested we leave early (we made it more than halfway thru Eisley's set - all thru all the openers - so I justified leaving early), since we were both so tired and I had to work in the morning.

He said, "Are you sure? One more song!" And he really didn't have to do that. He knew I liked them. One more song meant nothing to him.

I worked today. I was technically a supervisor today, so it was kinda weird. Nothing was going right for me all day; like, every little thing that could go wrong - did. I don't feel like I had a bad day though, and this is where I have made impressive strides at getting better. Every time bad things happen to me, it doesn't ruin my day or put me in a bad mood. I'm such much healthier, mentally, now than I was a few months ago, and I think I deserve a slight tip of the hat for that because I could have been dead by now. I sure wanted to be.

Aaron is asking if I want to go to dinner on the 2nd (my birthday). I don't know what he's got up his sleeve, but I hope it's something small, as I was at a funeral on his birthday and didn't really do much for him.

"We were together. I forget the rest."

I have injured both my ankles and can no longer run for the time being. I'm pretty disappointed because I was doing so well. I am already seeing results in getting my old body back, so at least I can kinda justify the rest... I don't want to rest though.

I totally jumped the gun on the Aaron thing. I'm just so easily disheartened. I'm quick to jump to the conclusion that I'm not that important to him. I don't feel worthy of genuine interest from someone who I feel is too good for me. I was trying to be the stronger person by not getting attached, but the fact that I felt defeated by a short lapse in communication proves I've failed in my attempt. For the record, my last message to him never went through. He messaged me "first" after the silence.

So we hung out a few days ago. He told me he had an "idea" but wouldn't tell me what it was. When he picked me up, we went for a stroll and then got ice cream and then back to his place to watch The Mighty Boosh, which he had downloaded all of because I had been talking about it. We've been quoting Old Gregg a lot now... about 7 years too late.

Then he asked if I had plans for Valentine's Day. Obviously not. I told him I've never really celebrated it even when I was in relationships. So, we spent Valentine's together as cheesy as it is. We cooked pasta and cookies and watched Eternal Sunshine. We had a good time.

I think he might actually like me or something.

where i'm at

Pisces (2/20-3/20) // Nine of Wands // Week of Feb. 5 - Feb. 11
The Nine of Wands is telling you to keep going, Pisces. You’ve come so far on your journey, and the progress you’ve made is an achievement in itself. Don’t waver in your vision this week, even in the face of challenges. Keep pushing ahead with confidence, even when you feel tired. Release whatever is feeling heavy, and move ahead only with the things that are motivating you to succeed.

Hey world,

Life is OK.

I've taken up running and exercising everyday because I noticed I was starting to gain inches in unflattering places. That's right - I've gained about 10 lbs. It's not noticeable to anyone but me, but I'd like to go back to what I was. I'm confident I can easily get there by summer, if not well before. I know I'm not "fat" but I also know that if I don't catch it early and do anything about it, it will get worse.

I also take Bear with me on my runs. He has benefited from the exercise everyday, though he's still a spoiled toddler who rarely listens and is always bored. That's alright because I still love him the most.

I haven't heard from Aaron in a couple days. He doesn't really use social media and he rarely texts me. We have fun when we hang out in person - I went with him when he got a tattoo and he has met my mom already - but the lack of communication is honestly making me lose interest. It's the main thing that always makes me lose interest in anyone. I guess the "too good to be true" part is that I was going to get bored... If things don't change, I can't be sure I'll continue to put in the effort. I'm not looking for another friends w/ benefits outfit. I'm interested in something serious.

But, you know, being bored is better than being miserable. I justify it because it's better than what I just left. I accept it because it doesn't make me dead inside. Like I said before... we take what we can get.

We'll see.